When I separated from my husband, I felt emotionally raw and vulnerable. I had never established boundaries or prioritized my needs in our marriage. Hence, I needed to get into the habit of doing that to protect myself when I began dating again. 

Setting boundaries is a crucial skill that...

When I left my husband, my life had become so intertwined with his that I forgot who I was. While married, we did what he liked to do. We seldom ventured far from home because of his health. We often ate at the same restaurants. 

As someone who traveled the world growing up, liked to...

Going through a divorce isn't for the faint of heart! It is a slow, sometimes dragged-out fight to the end and beyond!

Today, I want to share ten ideas of things you can do to nurture your soul during divorce:

1. Seek therapy and counseling: this is a no-brainer. There is nothing wrong with...

I started grieving my marriage before I was divorced. I chose to leave so I had the time to get emotionally prepared for the end. Grieving a relationship, either because of divorce or separation, isn't any different than death. It is a death of a different kind. I grieved an ideal that never was,...

After coming home from a 9-month stint abroad for work, I was going through the mail and saw a bill I'd never seen before. I opened it and imagine my surprise when I noticed it was for a mortgage! He'd bought a house, in my name no less, while I was working overseas. I didn't know what to...

When I divorced, I quickly realized it was the perfect opportunity to rediscover the things that brought me joy. After years of putting my former husband's needs and his business, my career, and our home life first, it was time to put me first! One of the reasons why I felt so drained was because...

When I divorced, I threw myself into my work. If I'm being honest, I was already throwing myself into my work well before the separation even came. It was a way to cope. I had a long commute, and I rationalized the morning drive as a great way to connect with my peeps in Europe and the evening...

After going through a separation or divorce, our self-confidence can take a hit. I put on a good facade. After all, I had left, so I didn't feel I had the "right" to feel unsure. But I remember feeling insecure and unlovable, and I threw myself into my work. I worked crazy hours because that was...

I saw my parents get divorced after 25 years of marriage, and I thought, “I’ll never do that. If I ever marry, it’ll be for life!” Little did I know that 20 years later, I would embark on the same journey. My former husband and I had been together ten years when we finally...

I was so caught in the hustle. I worked crazy long hours during the week, on weekends, and while I was on vacation. At dinner time, my phone was never too far off, so I could jump on notifications. I felt like a hamster on a wheel, churning and churning with no end in sight. In fact, the work...

Last week, we went to a dinner party. The hostess was wonderful and made all kinds of yummy foods. I have struggled with my weight since I moved to the US. Culturally, America was very different from my previous living experiences. I was 15 and felt like a fish out of water. To be honest, I was...

I was so dang tired. I was putting in the hours, working hard but not feeling like it was making a dent, and worse, feeling like I wasn’t making a difference. I wasn’t sleeping well. I felt like I had no time to prioritize myself, and I had so little energy that even if I had the...